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Duuunnn be afraid:D:D

life? nah it sucks anyway......


i need some advice on love if u may help..

no life is good..depands on with whom u spend it with;)

sure, whats the problem?

well i spend it alone, what abt u? is it fun for u?

okay my problem!
what if u like a girl, and u wanna be her friend but she does'nt like u, what should i do?

lool nah u never spend it alone, you have friends rite..

why wouldnt she wanan be friend with someone like YOU?!:p

lol! whats so good abt me? i mean there r millions out there like me, why would she be my friend?

u're wrong, there is noone out there like you:)

u can never have too much friends, so she should stop being
such a --- and start being ur friend:D

thanx *blushes again*

the problem is! i hav'nt met her, i see her on a forum thats all

btw do u believe in love over the internet?

Oooh i see..well i'm sure she wants to be ur friend, it mite jsut take sum time:)


I don't really know, i guess its possible when u have seen eachothers pics and tru webcam..

how long do u think it takes to get to know n then friendship,etc,etc?

aww wut a cute lil convo u guys r havin :D

how long do u think it takes to get to know n then friendship,etc,etc?
pretty damn long lol:p

pretty damn long lol:p

how long? :sad_smile

aww wut a cute lil convo u guys r havin :D

thanx! btw she is a girl, im the guy :wink_smil

thanx! btw she is a girl, im the guy :wink_smil

really?
i thot it was the other way around
bahahahahahahaha :D:D




joke.
sorry.
ok.
no more joking from me.
bye.

thanx *blushes again*

the problem is! i hav'nt met her, i see her on a forum thats all

btw do u believe in love over the internet?
Lolz....I can so relate....:rolleyes:

how long do u think it takes to get to know n then friendship,etc,etc?

it depends how long you want to take to know them, some people like to know people for a just a short period of time while others need more time.

ie: some people take longer to trust someone, while others trust quickly

hey Pari,

just wondering if u could give me some advice...

im 22yrs old and got married to someone i knew for 6 years only to have him beat me up every day and stop me seeing my family. someone who even beat me up when i was 3mnths pregnant. i still stayed because i was worried about the whole indian community and what they will say. But i finally left when my son was 2 months old and was so sick but my husband couldnt be bothered taking him to the doctors because he wanted to sleep.
its now been 8 months that we have been seperate and i dont want to go back. im alot happier without him.
but i have a new problem. i have a good friend in my life who my son now 11 months old calls dad on his own. we try and stop him but he just wants to call him dad. that friend and me have become very close and now he sees my son as his own. he wants to marry me and be a family with me and my son but im scared that his family will not approve because i have been married and have a son.... he has just told his mum he wants to be with me but she didnt say anything. she said she wants to meet me and my son.
i dont know what to do or say to her? i dont even know what to do about this whole thing... please help?

Hi Pri,

almost like pari na:p
First of all..wow! im so sorry to hear that and second of all you say you knew him for six years..lekin it sounds to me you didnt know him that well that you married him to find out he beats you. Did you guys ever talk about why he beat you, did u ever confronte him with that fact, or where you living in constant fear all this time? How long have you been married?
I think it's really good of you that you left and had the courage to do so, because alot of woman don't have that and spend their whole lives living in fear of what tomorrow might bring. And i think it's really cute what your sons does, calling your close friend dad. He's still a kid and kids need a father no matter how much love a mum can give. The love and pressence of a father is very different and if he doesnt receive that at home, he will look for it somewhere else, which cant be good alwayz.
I'd advice you to be nothing else thn what you have been your whole life infront of his parents. Being perfectely random and normal can be very hard sometimes, but it is the best option no matter the situation. If you are happy with him, he is happy with you, he sees your son as his own and vice versa..thn why shouldnt you guys get married. I thought the indian community was modernising..?? I can understand the point of view of his parents, about people might start talking about their son getting married to someone with a son and everything, lekin life na..life needs changes, changes make life exciting and if one can't accept the changes a life brings, one can never fully live life.
Your friend and you want to get married and obviously your son is the first one to agree:D i would advise you to first meet his parents. The four of you need to sit down and all say what you think and feel about this matter. Don't stress about what you need to wear[wear something that will make them see you can be a good wife to him and a daughter-in-law for them to present to others;) something like very nice black pants with some great top, but not a top that says ''please say yes to this marriege'' and ofcourse great shoes], don't stress about what you are going to say. Let your mind become one with your heart and thn the right words will come floading out of your mouth, trust me. Give them an impression that will knock their socks off, i mean you're a single mum who had the courage to leave her husband, you are still living your life, you know what you want..n hey..i wouldnt mind having such a strong sister-in-law;) and don't forget to ask them what they would do if it was them in your situation or if it was someone they really cared for, like their daugther or a close cousin..wouldn't they want her to leave her husband if he beat her and marry someone else to become happy. That's a question that alwayz makes them think and perhaps, it will also make them have understanding for this situation and agree[inshaAllah]

I hope that helped you a bit, this is all i can give you right now, i have to go and make dinner lol, everything is so busy!!:(
If you have any other questions..just let me know. You can also pm if you want:)
Well..you'll let me know how the meeting went rite..good luck!

Hi Pri,

almost like pari na:p
First of all..wow! im so sorry to hear that and second of all you say you knew him for six years..lekin it sounds to me you didnt know him that well that you married him to find out he beats you. Did you guys ever talk about why he beat you, did u ever confronte him with that fact, or where you living in constant fear all this time? How long have you been married?
I think it's really good of you that you left and had the courage to do so, because alot of woman don't have that and spend their whole lives living in fear of what tomorrow might bring. And i think it's really cute what your sons does, calling your close friend dad. He's still a kid and kids need a father no matter how much love a mum can give. The love and pressence of a father is very different and if he doesnt receive that at home, he will look for it somewhere else, which cant be good alwayz.
I'd advice you to be nothing else thn what you have been your whole life infront of his parents. Being perfectely random and normal can be very hard sometimes, but it is the best option no matter the situation. If you are happy with him, he is happy with you, he sees your son as his own and vice versa..thn why shouldnt you guys get married. I thought the indian community was modernising..?? I can understand the point of view of his parents, about people might start talking about their son getting married to someone with a son and everything, lekin life na..life needs changes, changes make life exciting and if one can't accept the changes a life brings, one can never fully live life.
Your friend and you want to get married and obviously your son is the first one to agree:D i would advise you to first meet his parents. The four of you need to sit down and all say what you think and feel about this matter. Don't stress about what you need to wear[wear something that will make them see you can be a good wife to him and a daughter-in-law for them to present to others;) something like very nice black pants with some great top, but not a top that says ''please say yes to this marriege'' and ofcourse great shoes], don't stress about what you are going to say. Let your mind become one with your heart and thn the right words will come floading out of your mouth, trust me. Give them an impression that will knock their socks off, i mean you're a single mum who had the courage to leave her husband, you are still living your life, you know what you want..n hey..i wouldnt mind having such a strong sister-in-law;) and don't forget to ask them what they would do if it was them in your situation or if it was someone they really cared for, like their daugther or a close cousin..wouldn't they want her to leave her husband if he beat her and marry someone else to become happy. That's a question that alwayz makes them think and perhaps, it will also make them have understanding for this situation and agree[inshaAllah]

I hope that helped you a bit, this is all i can give you right now, i have to go and make dinner lol, everything is so busy!!:(
If you have any other questions..just let me know. You can also pm if you want:)
Well..you'll let me know how the meeting went rite..good luck!

crap at best......

Matlab?:D
chup you! stop ruinin my topic please!

lol r u tyra banks or ricki lake? ;)

Im Pari, the best;)

thats ur opinion :p or should i say dream ;)

Good joke;)

hey Pari,

just wondering if u could give me some advice...

im 22yrs old and got married to someone i knew for 6 years only to have him beat me up every day and stop me seeing my family. someone who even beat me up when i was 3mnths pregnant. i still stayed because i was worried about the whole indian community and what they will say. But i finally left when my son was 2 months old and was so sick but my husband couldnt be bothered taking him to the doctors because he wanted to sleep.
its now been 8 months that we have been seperate and i dont want to go back. im alot happier without him.
but i have a new problem. i have a good friend in my life who my son now 11 months old calls dad on his own. we try and stop him but he just wants to call him dad. that friend and me have become very close and now he sees my son as his own. he wants to marry me and be a family with me and my son but im scared that his family will not approve because i have been married and have a son.... he has just told his mum he wants to be with me but she didnt say anything. she said she wants to meet me and my son.
i dont know what to do or say to her? i dont even know what to do about this whole thing... please help?

Hey, sorry, I'm a bit nosey I guess..:p

Would just like to share my thoughts.


A parent's biggest concern is their child and their childs happiness. The guys family you're going to see, I'd imagine they'd be a little weary solely because you were once married and now have a son. Being parents they have their own vision of what life will be like for their children, so I'm guessing this wasn't exactly what they had in mind. So, it's quiet obvious they'll have questions to ask, possibly even about your past. That's why I think, most importantly you should be really prepared for that when you go to meet his parents. If you and this guy (espescially) are absolutely committed to making this work, then hopefully his parents should see passed everything and all will be well. Afterall, that's all parents need, the satisfaction that their children have really thought about their future and will be happy.

Plus, don't forgot the fact that his parents actually called you over is a big step in it self. At the very least it signifies, that they're considering it, or else they could have just refused straight away. I think they would have if all they were worried about is what others would think, but they haven't. So hopefully that counts for something.


Goodluck. :)

Why is Pari the advice giver...?

Because i created the topic and i'm good at giving advice:D but feel free to give advice aswell if you want:)

Ok...give me advice....

Advice about..?

umm kuch bhi pooch saqte hain ?

Advice advice...give me my fortune or something...:rolleyes:

Hey, sorry, I'm a bit nosey I guess..:p

Would just like to share my thoughts.


A parent's biggest concern is their child and their childs happiness. The guys family you're going to see, I'd imagine they'd be a little weary solely because you were once married and now have a son. Being parents they have their own vision of what life will be like for their children, so I'm guessing this wasn't exactly what they had in mind. So, it's quiet obvious they'll have questions to ask, possibly even about your past. That's why I think, most importantly you should be really prepared for that when you go to meet his parents. If you and this guy (espescially) are absolutely committed to making this work, then hopefully his parents should see passed everything and all will be well. Afterall, that's all parents need, the satisfaction that their children have really thought about their future and will be happy.

Plus, don't forgot the fact that his parents actually called you over is a big step in it self. At the very least it signifies, that they're considering it, or else they could have just refused straight away. I think they would have if all they were worried about is what others would think, but they haven't. So hopefully that counts for something.


Goodluck. :)

i agree with you..they know for a fact that you have been married once and this is not about to "knock their socks off," just answer all the questions they ask truthfully and you will absolutely fine. Just be calm, the truth must come out