Why does breaking up hurt so much?

why is it right when u begin to actually like sumone sumthin goes wrong and they break up wit u? and why does it hurt so much? :( :(

can anyone help me understand this?

Aww I can understand how you feel.
I'll tell you something that happened with my friend and it broke her heart tremendously because she loved the guy and the guy was simply not worth her loving.
So she liked this guy and she told only her good friends about it. One of her friends tried hooking her up with they guy she liked because her friend was close friends with the guy.
The guy was super surprised. He sent her a mail saying that they didn't know each other well enough to go out.
So fine...No big deal huh? Well a few days later the girl's friend who had hooked them up sent her a mail talking about the convo they (the guy and the friend) had on AIM. And the guy was like I'm not going to mail her back because that's like leading her on. That right there broke the girl's heart. She mailed him next year (2006) saying to forget about everything that went on last year and start afresh. But he did not reply. Then they met on a Sunday and the girl tried saying hi but either the guy didn't hear her or he was ignoring her. ANd 99% he was ignoring her because the next time they met and she tried saying hi he ignored or again. My friend does have a soft voice so I dont know which is true...Whether he couldn't hear her or whether he was trying to ignore her.
Well my friend was heartbroken because she didn't want to break friendship with this guy...But now she knows that the guy is not worth her time.
I guess the reason why it hurts so much is because you have a special bonding with the person and you are afraid of it breaking. It hurts loads to find out that they guy you love hates you. But I guess that's just part of life.
I hope I helped you in some way. :D

thanks it helped a bit and i guess ur right it is apart of lyfe but u know wat, lyfe hurts

aww so ur another person after me who broke..but this a good place i felt good after joining this forum..it helped me to get over it...dun worry...No use of thinking bout a person whos not worth loving..:D

sounds like ur story is similar to mine if not the same, but i guess ur right, but then don't u ever think about all the good times u had wit the person. I mean with me i'll be sittin there one minute all happy and then i'll jus go into a depressed mood when i remember all ther good times i had with the person

yh c'mon ofcourse..it takes time to forget the nice moments...but it's life and lyfe means thinkin bout present and future..it was diffcult for me to forget but it's all ayt...now

thxs for sum hope, i thought tht i might feel like this 4ever

n/p anytime...i know how ur feeing..so how do u feel..how r studiz..:)

still upset but ok, my grades were in the 70's and 80's but my rents found out and pulled me outta skool i'm startin at a new skool on febuary 6th

thanks it helped a bit and i guess ur right it is apart of lyfe but u know wat, lyfe hurts

Aww. Yeah.
You should always cherish those happy moments. But dont let them get to you a lot. I mean maybe the guy just wasn't worth it. Yes it will take time forgetting but you dont want to trouble your mind too much that you fall behind in studies. I mean studies are the most important thing in life. Not relationships.

aww so sorry to here tht..Dun worry just talk to ppl aroud here coz ppl say lame jkes but u can laugh on it:p aww ur starting a new skool...whn i had to do tht..it was difficult for me...

Aww. Yeah.
You should always cherish those happy moments. But dont let them get to you a lot. I mean maybe the guy just wasn't worth it. Yes it will take time forgetting but you dont want to trouble your mind too much that you fall behind in studies. I mean studies are the most important thing in life. Not relationships.

aww jaan ur so understanding:p and ur lookin sxcy..;)

Shad up Wasam...You dhokebas
Broke my heart
You flirt

aww soory jaan :o im so sorry..i was just so bored...and missing u..;)i only flirt with u...others just a joke..:p

Jo bhi ho
I dont like you flirting with other girl as if mein koi bhi nahi

aww ji ur my jaan who said u r nothing...tumhara aur Raj ka kya:p

shad up :D
:8:

lol..u flirt with raj and me no flirt.:p

Shad up
I dont flirt with anyone

aww ji u take everything serious..im not a dokhebAS!!! BELIEVE ME...

yes u are ^^ u flirt a lot .. bad boy look after my princess rani ji :D

anyway aww... dun wory u wont feel that u got hurt after couple of times loool ;)

well i say it depends on howhard you fell for the guy
some get over in matters of few days some takes times to get used to the fact that there not with you anymore

if your still friends with the guy then dont feel to bad about it but ifs it all ove and hes not talking and ignoring you then it harder but you know what?
all guys are like that sorry just my opinions there isnt any decent guy out there u know(no offence guy beside u guys on bwh am chattin abt lol)

so dont feel to bad about it coz u know u have to life ur life dont bother vrying over that i knw it harder said than done but u knw only u can get urslf from stop thinking about him

good luck hope u manage
plus am sure theres better guys thann this one, its his loss lol

hope it helps

rani and wasama are starin to sound like a married couple. lol how cute

awwwwwwwwwwww rubz such a sweet heart well all the ppl here are, i felt kinda scared and shy to post on this site but ju guyz soooooo sweet and kind thxs for the advise. i was like so depressed be4 but ju guys cheered me up thxs

n/p monica...u have a sweet name...u have any prob later u can share it with us if u want..:)yeh me shahrukh and rani ..rani...:p

lol thxs,

"Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with."

There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. The ideas below are not meant to cover up your loss but rather to help your healing process so you can move on and enjoy being single for awhile!


Throw a small party. The fun of letting loose and being surrounded with your close friends can make anyone feel better.


Gather everything that reminds you of your past love and put it in a box specifically for this. Then give it to a friend or store it somewhere where you won't see or think about it. When you're ready you can either throw away the box or keep it for memory's sake.


Start a new exercise or well-being plan. It never hurts to take time to look good!


Start a daily journal, even if it's on your computer. Somewhere everyday take the time to jot down whatever comes to mind. The idea in starting a journal is not to write cleverly or even about anything important. Just write (or type) whatever comes to mind even if your journal starts to look like this: "Went shopping yesterday for a new book oh yea need to e-mail Susan, the flowers on that window sill need watering." The point of your journal is to clear your thoughts. In a few weeks you will be able to read your entries to discover new things and trends about yourself.


Join a new interest group. It's never to early too meet new friends and, at least this way, you'll already have one thing in common.


Learn something new. Take a foreign language or art course, or buy a how-to computer program.


Pick out an inspirational book or movie to read or watch whenever you start feeling down or depressed.


Take yourself out on a date, even if it's a night alone watching your favorite programs and eating your favorite foods.


Do the things you said you always wanted to do when you were with your partner but somehow never did.


Get a new look.


Pick up a calendar and fill out the next 3 months with social events you'd like to attend or things you'd like to do. Browse your city's web site or the entertainment section of your local newspaper to find out ideas, dates and times.


Spend a "comfy" day. Get out your favorite comfy clothes, pillow, blanket, etc. and just spend the day relaxing doing whatever you want!


Get a pet or plant to take care of.


Rent a few romantic movies or read a few romance novels to remind yourself that love does still have happy endings.


Write a goodbye poem or letter. Then stick it in a bottle and throw it out in the sea or attach it to a helium balloon to be carried away.


Do something you wouldn't normally do to celebrate your "singleness."


Redecorate your space. Start off by cleaning out everything and throwing away anything you don't use or need anymore. Make a few self-indulgent decorating additions like a few candles, a favorite painting or fresh flowers!


Visit a new city. Pick some place you've always wanted to go or some place closer to home to save money.


Spend time with your friends.

Shad up
I dont flirt with anyone


ahan some 2nd tots needed loool :p

kidding

awwwwwww monica (u remind me of ma cuz lil sis her name is monica as well)
it okay were all like dis on her

still u guyz r so supportin on this site i got sum advice i didn't expect and to tell u the truth i think ju guys gave me betta advice then my family and friends :kiss: :heart: :rose: thxs guy u guys should form like a support group or sumthin, i mean it sounds like u guys have benn through the samethin or know sumone tht has.

all have their love with them or searching for one...im the only one been through all this...

well i dont know about myself lol
but u know am good with advice but bad when it comes to my own problems i dont know what to do!!!

were glad to be able to help

awww don't worry wasama your goin to find your true love soon enough

ahahahahahahah
wasama and true love?
dont make me laugh he couldnt even keep Rani as his wife u think hes gna be able to stick to one person???




























































looooool u knw am kidding wasama dnt take it seriously :p

lol i was but when i scrolled down..i was like ok..its all good

haha awww okies
good i wrote dat at da bottom

Yeah Ruby di...
True love
Ugh

awww
u have ur true love
Aman

Yes I do

awwwwwwwwwww

rani..:mad::p

OMG i feel heart broken cuz of u knoe who cough cough WASAMA cough cough!!
:( *tear tear*

lol...u din get the msg..u being so mean to me :(

rani..:mad::p

Kya?

iz ever1 heart broken on love month?

o baby dun break my heart..cause i have been waiting for a long long ti e

^^is dis meant to b a song???????

yeh its a song

nice nice

Aaaawww..yup love hurts so much! I guess there are many reasons why it does. Love is such an extreme feeling, it either makes you high lol or it can bring you down to your lowest. Loving a person can do this to you. I have had a bad experience similar to Cutiepie Rani's friend's story. It was so bad that I went through some very difficult times, thinking of absurd things, things that I dare not even think about now. But believe it or not lilprincess, there is a reason why people in your past or not in your future. I have learnt that now but it never helps quite so much thinking like that because you always end up thinking about what may have been. But you learn to deal with it. The reason why it hurts so much is that the thought of giving your heart to someone and the other person not feeling the same somehow doesn't feel right. You want them more than ever and even though they have said no to you you just cant help but hope day in and day out that they will change their mind. Wallowing in your sorrow is not healthy but it's something you need to go through to get yourself out of the dark tunnel; basically it's a healing process. I sincerely hope you feel better soon! Take care of yourself. xXx

o baby dun break my heart..cause i have been waiting for a long long ti e

Awwww...So touching...

Tadap tadap ke iss dil se
aaye nikalti rahey
mujh ko saaza di pyaar ki
aisa kya gunah kiya
ohhhhh loooot gaye
haann looooooooooooooooooot gaye loooooool

^^^just singing :D

awwwww wow nice message above there loool

breaking up hurts alot coz yeah love is an extreme feeling....u tend to spend most of ur time thinking, loving and caring about that person and then next thing u know is that ur relationships over within mins......and then u start to remeba things u used to do with that person....where u used to u on dates person....all those promises....tears, laughter u two shared....it haunts u...and u just feel more depressed and lonely.....

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awwwwwwwwww adii u sed it right

priya whts wiff the advertising?

ohhh advertising lool
dats why hehe

The ultimate purpose of life is survival and the pen ultimate purpose of life is replication.

When we like someone we are fulfilling the pen ultimate purpose.
When things go wrong we feel hurt coz now the purpose is not being filled and we are hard wired to respond to these emotionally so that the human race can continue to thrive.

You Talking like a Machine!

You Talking like a Machine!

What do you think I am? A human!

Do you remember me?

hahaha...
was she here when u were dead man???

Yes, she was here when I was Dead!

What do you think I am? A human!

Do you remember me?

Noo not a humany *anymore* but not a machine either!
sooo that brings us to the conclusion YOU are a GHOST!
Thats how u keep living even after dying :D

Ummm remember you..umm DO U REMEMBER ME?:D
whats my name? *stop cheating.. i know u r looking at my siggi*

I dont know.. but i think i heard about you...or seen u before
dont know if i ever talked to u ... umm i dont know..

^^^PLease dont get angry:fear: i even dont know what i had for
brekkkie this morning...*actually wait i didnt had one till now*

errr seriously didz do u???

he sed u do lool...

Noo not a humany *anymore* but not a machine either!
sooo that brings us to the conclusion YOU are a GHOST!
Thats how u keep living even after dying :D

Ummm remember you..umm DO U REMEMBER ME?:D
whats my name? *stop cheating.. i know u r looking at my siggi*

I dont know.. but i think i heard about you...or seen u before
dont know if i ever talked to u ... umm i dont know..

^^^PLease dont get angry:fear: i even dont know what i had for
brekkkie this morning...*actually wait i didnt had one till now*

You forgot me. How can you?

Bhool gayi woh kasme woh waaden,
woh raatein, woh mulakatein,
woh haseen lamhe jo hamne saath saath bitaye they.

hahahaha u sound as if u were wiv her 24/7 lool

You forgot me. How can you?

Bhool gayi woh kasme woh waaden,
woh raatein, woh mulakatein,
woh haseen lamhe jo hamne saath saath bitaye they.

Hahaha... arre tum un kasmu..vaadu..etc ki baat kar rahye ho..
i dont remember...anything that happened last night :D

U forgot me too!..ussme kya nayi bat!

ewww khushi u and that dead meat were together????????

yuck.......i'll be rite back.. gotta go puke:eek:



:D

No I did'nt forget you.

Tum "last night" jo hua woh bhi bhool gayi.

Yes bachchi I was with her 24/7 (24th July)

Desi Kudi is jelous.

your ID is familiar I know you but I don't remember.

your name honey?

errrrr dead mannn...
its Jana...she changed her username..

haha 24th july?? wowwieeee ur soooooooo damn smart!!!!

Whats there to be jelous of???

OMG YOU FORGOT ME??? HOW CAN YOU FORGET UR JANAM JANAM KI DUSHMAN??? DEAD MEAT SUX :D

No i remember u... shuddup.. i dont have tat bad memo.,.
actually its taiz.. only wen the voltage is high :D

what da hell is taiz???

Taiz = Fast

Jana, when I read this: HOW CAN YOU FORGET UR JANAM....
I read it like Jaanam - which means darling. Duh!

Jana(m) you changed your username thats why I didnt get you!
Now let the battle begin!

For khusi: I'll increase the voltage for you and even current.

fast?? okay

hah increase voltage and current? hahaha

I teach you most of the hindi here?

haha i know a lot of hindi now..
just bits and bobs i dont get at times..

Yadi aisi baat hai to aaj se hum hamesha hindi mei vartalap karenge.

Taiz = Fast

Jana, when I read this: HOW CAN YOU FORGET UR JANAM....
I read it like Jaanam - which means darling. Duh!

Jana(m) you changed your username thats why I didnt get you!
Now let the battle begin!

For khusi: I'll increase the voltage for you and even current.
haha joker do you really think i would eva call you JAANAM??? :confused:

nahhh man i aint ganna fite... I have betta things do :D
nyways see ya!!!

Taiz = Fast

Jana, when I read this: HOW CAN YOU FORGET UR JANAM....
I read it like Jaanam - which means darling. Duh!

Jana(m) you changed your username thats why I didnt get you!
Now let the battle begin!

For khusi: I'll increase the voltage for you and even current.

ewwwwwwww that soooo did not com,e rite....,ewww ewww...
no thnmxxx i dont need u to increase my voltage and current./...
ewww ewww

i didnt get 2 words in dat sentence above dead man...

nahhh man i aint ganna fite... I have betta things do

Darr gayi



ewwwwwwww that soooo did not com,e rite....,ewww ewww...
no thnmxxx i dont need u to increase my voltage and current./...
ewww ewww

You said your so called "brain" works fast with increased voltage.
I just wanted to help!


i didnt get 2 words in dat sentence above dead man...

aaj means today &
hum means us

i didnt get da Yadii and Vartalap
^^these word are easyyyy hehehehe

welll.. dont pay attenion to wat i say...
and yeah ur words were soooo not right!

haha interesting lool..

u dunno yaadi n vartalap?
well i do

"u dunno yaadi n vartalap?
well i do"
Even I do. Atleast 2 people know now.


"welll.. dont pay attenion to wat i say..."
OK as you wish

nah dont know...
i pick Hindi from movies..seriels..and BWH...
not a expert lool...

And From Me Riteeeeeeee :p

oh ya...well ur learning..thats good

yeh...hopefully by the time i get to go India...i know how to speak it..
i never tried saying it out loud...never ever...
i notice how i can write in hindi as in u knw english words...on papers..but i neva try saying it out loud lool..
actuallly i dont even know how to speak Bangla properly lool..

bangla u can learn..from home i guess so

yeah dats what am saying lol..
everyone at home speaks english...and we only use bangla like one in a blue moon lool...ma mum understands everything in english..so we dont need to u knw talk to her in bangla really..and da rest ov us siblings and dad?? all day talk in english
its juss at times...to cousins on da fone...Bangladesh..
i juss cant stand it...but sumtimes wiv u knw ppl u have to...so dat why i tryy to speak more often but words get twisted and i talk in both english and bangla..

ma bro and mum speak in hindi most times now...coz ov me apparently i butt into every business and they get annoyed...helllo it my family and its my house i have ever right to hehehe

My BF just told me he doesn't think we're right for each other...

everyone should get a chance to get to know each other for at least 3 months. If you can understand your boyfriends/girlfriends feelings & mind then you should see if you're right for each other.

do you share any chemistry?
do you have the same interests?
Could you tell what the persons thinking sometimes?

Theses things matter in a relationship.

Hate isn't the opposite of Love. The person could hate you but still love you. As long as he/she cares so much, then you should be together, you are meant for each other.

so bengalibbe, why does he say you're not right for him?

lol love sucks
relationships suck
GET ARRANNGED MARRIAGE!
its the vaaayy to go!
lol

i dunno wanna get onto does...

it hurts alot though...

:) Hi All, This is my first contribution on this website so here we go....
Firstly since the original post was done in January, I hope LilPrincess has gotten over him/her/it (sorry i only skimmed). A lot of the time I think if you let your mind wonder on something you start to obsess on it and slowly turns into love or infatuation, also when you're in a lovey dovey mood or phase the first thing that amost matches what you're looking you think you've found love. Sometimes you gotta step ahead and see the big picture. Lil' if you've still haven't gotten over them, maybe it's cos u need closure, confront them, be angry at them, and just realise they're not even worth it... Seriously u'll be awright...promise:) Hope that's ok...if I knew abt this website a couple of months ago I would have given a better answer I think..BUT TIME IS A GREAT HEALER. Also it really does help to talk it out with mates and etc..hope i've been useful....:Not_Impre