it is a well-known fact that virginity is what we, girls, hold as a gem, and once we lose it, there's no going back.
there might be surgical procedures in order to be technically a "virgin" again, however, you have already experienced the act of becoming one with a partner, and that basically means you have already lost your virginity -in simple lay men's terms, you've popped the cherry!
but does this conservative outlook still exist in this modern, liberated world?
is virginty still important?
or, do you think the same way i do, that it is important only if you think it is?
that it is just another way for men to become more "superior" than women?
why is it such a shame for girls who are no longer virgins, and such a "cool thing" for men to have done it hundreds of times?
tsk tsk, honestly, i think that virginity is precious, however, i am not against losing it, because i would like to see equality in the world.
what do you think?
desi_gunda
18-01-2006, 05:28 AM
Your talking ONLY from a gurls point of view, guys are virgins till they "pop the cherry" themselves as well, and as far as I'm concerned, as long as the couple knws what they'r doing, with the consequences in their mind having sex, and losing virginity doesnt seem like a big issue to me, although I'm in favour of losing it 2 one and only one person, call me old fashioned, but thats just me.
UnDeRcOvEr•ÅnGeL
18-01-2006, 05:03 PM
^ I agreeeee
*~* aksha *~*
19-01-2006, 01:31 AM
I agree with Jonty...this is bias.
Wasama
19-01-2006, 11:11 AM
i agree with jontu too...big up bro
Rubz
21-01-2006, 01:08 PM
this is a funny topic
but what Jonts said was right lol
Uk_gangsta'_gal_ondaloose
21-01-2006, 01:56 PM
my virginity is very very very very very very very very very very precious to me...:)
aaannnd, i will never lose it..even when i have got married...:D damn right YEAH!
:P
GoLd_DiGgEr
21-01-2006, 07:39 PM
ok cool. thats the end of the thread ?? mmmm ??? anymore views??
Rubz
23-01-2006, 01:00 PM
HAHAHA
u tell us urs
akki4life
26-01-2006, 06:22 PM
this is gonna sound really digusting to some of u guys, but i will write it anyways. read at ur own risk!!!
in some countries, expecially small parts of africa and small parts of middle eastern countries, they have this process called FGM (Female Gential Mutlation). what they do in that process is they take the vagina area of a girl (usually done between age 4-8) and remove the genitalia part. they they take the skin and sew the whole thing together. the reason they do that is just to make sure the girl stays a virgin, and some even believe it makes the girl look more beautiful. then during the honeymoon night, the husband has to rip open the stitiches just so they can have an intercourse. also, they believe its alot more fun for the husband.
man, that gotta hurt really bad.
Aftab4Me
10-02-2006, 07:44 PM
virginity is important....but in relationship there will be a stage where a girl will loose it no matter wat....
Wasama
11-02-2006, 05:02 AM
Yes aditi virginity is important as for the guys and for the girls and its a good thing if u loose virginity after marriage
Aftab4Me
11-02-2006, 06:09 AM
lol u didnt get my point wasama
Wasama
11-02-2006, 02:04 PM
No aditi i got ur point...:D
sahara
11-02-2006, 11:44 PM
As Long As U Take Precautions And Its With The Right Person I See No Harm In Losing It...but Just Think About Wut Ur Gonna Do Cuz The Consequences Can Be Life Altering Before Jumping Into Anything
Wasama
11-02-2006, 11:46 PM
Yh so it's betta to loose the virginity after the marriage coz u dunno wat has future kept for u
sahara
11-02-2006, 11:54 PM
yeah but even after ur married u dont noe wut the future has in store for u
Wasama
11-02-2006, 11:56 PM
buh u know u can loose ur virginity now and its legal..
sahara
11-02-2006, 11:59 PM
it was never illegal in the first place if u were at the legal age of consent
Wasama
12-02-2006, 12:01 AM
Well but to have sex u need to get married...coz having sex without marriage is against the law...
sahara
12-02-2006, 12:04 AM
no its not! where do u live?!?
Wasama
12-02-2006, 12:06 AM
its again the religion i din mean the state law...i stay in US
sahara
12-02-2006, 12:10 AM
ooooo
i dont think religion should control your lifestyle....as long as ur a good person and treat everyone right itz all good
Wasama
12-02-2006, 12:12 AM
Yes religion shoudn't controll my lifestyle but i should controll myself...
sahara
12-02-2006, 12:13 AM
lol ok
Wasama
12-02-2006, 12:15 AM
hehehe...yes
Aftab4Me
13-02-2006, 06:03 AM
yeah but some ppl tend to loose it before marriage....i dont think its bad ...yeah with precautions then its not bad....but sometimes things do go wrong and u are faced with life changing consequences.....sometimes good sometimes bad....
don corleone
09-03-2006, 10:24 PM
^let me guess ur indian
»KashKoor«
09-03-2006, 10:52 PM
No she is from kazakistan
Wasama
09-03-2006, 11:43 PM
ah thn aditi knows Russian lang ...:p
Aftab4Me
09-03-2006, 11:50 PM
heheheheheeh kulfi!
yeah im indian....um y???? did i say something wrong? lol
**Cute**Jaan**
10-03-2006, 04:24 AM
hmmm..intresting topic....
i read da first page b4 i came here................n hammads post is so ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.........damm he does research
»KashKoor«
10-03-2006, 04:21 PM
looooool... what jiya ur indian shame u told me
u were from kazakistan...alll this time i been thinkin u were
kazi chick shameeeeeee
Aftab4Me
10-03-2006, 08:13 PM
hehee ohh oops!!!!! hehehehe....sorry yeah me n big mouth!
»KashKoor«
10-03-2006, 08:15 PM
True Hayeee
Aftab4Me
11-03-2006, 04:47 AM
oye:p
don corleone
11-03-2006, 11:38 PM
kazakistan ki bachee
Wasama
11-03-2006, 11:39 PM
She aint from Kazakistan..she is from India..
Aftab4Me
21-03-2006, 07:26 PM
hheheh
RoseCity_Bollywood_Fan
24-03-2006, 06:35 PM
Since I'm not Indian ...I'll put the American view.Virginity for either gender has become less important in todays society.Alot of that has to do with the sexualization of society & the breakdown of cultural morals.I've lost mine...I wish I kept it till i found a woman who'd really love me.But there is a minor move for abstanence (sp?).I think both men & women should abstane till they aready to AT LEAST be responsible for their decission or wait till marriage.I refuse to sleep around,I'll wait till i find a woman to marry.L8r
Fight Racism!
S.H.A.R.P.
RoseCity_Bollywood_Fan
Rubz
03-11-2006, 06:42 PM
hmmm..intresting topic....
i read da first page b4 i came here................n hammads post is so ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.........damm he does research
i jus read dis part just now...
and ewwwwwwwwwwwwww
i wonder what he got in his brains!!!!!!!!!!
poisonIVY
05-11-2006, 09:43 PM
sure imma do it if he got a big willy wonka
adaa
07-11-2006, 05:00 PM
i just think that you have to look at it from both sides...imagine the shame on ur parents in society if anyone finds out...
i wudnt want to make my parents an outcast...for one night's pleasure
akki4life
15-11-2006, 04:49 AM
i jus read dis part just now...
and ewwwwwwwwwwwwww
i wonder what he got in his brains!!!!!!!!!!
it was even worse when i was doin a presentation on it. i had a hard time tlkin cause everytime i wld look at my powerpoint, the pictures were there, it was disgusting. lol
ALAIN GIRL
15-11-2006, 07:44 AM
Female virginity is closely interwoven with personal or even family honor in many cultures. Traditionally in some cultures (especially those dominated by Christianity, Islam and Judaism, as also Hinduism and the other Indic religions) there has been a widespread belief that the loss of virginity before marriage is a matter of deep shame. In some cultures (for example the Bantu of South Africa), virginity testing is commonplace. This would typically involve personal inspection by a female elder.
Traditionally in Western marriage ceremonies, a veil is taken as a symbol of the bride's virginity; the white dress is also commonly considered a sign of virginity. The extent to which this symbolism is accurate is unclear, given that some women may choose to wear white even if they are no longer virgins. This may even hold true for women who are assumed to be non-virgins (for example, those involved in a second marriage), but the practice is not universal.
The philosopher Bertrand Russell, in his book Why I Am Not a Christian, argued that to avoid sexual relationships before marriage was naive and unwise, and that to do so would in the long run lead to far more unhappiness than if sexual activity is engaged in. This is based on the idea that if one is ignorant of sexual desire and fulfillment, one will not be able to distinguish between a deep infatuation and what may be known as true affection, and thus may make an unfortunate choice of partner based upon misconception — a mistake that would not be committed by those aware of the distinction.
Some historians and anthropologists note that many societies that place a high value on virginity before marriage, such as the United States before the sexual revolution, actually have a large amount of premarital sexual activity that does not involve vaginal penetration, e.g., oral sex, anal sex and mutual masturbation. Some refer to this as "technical" virginity
;)
Ms. Jasmine
16-11-2006, 12:41 AM
I think it is important to have Virginity. It's easy to know about girls that if they are virgin or not but it's difficult to find out about guys. I don't like this concept of losing viriginity without getting married. What's the point of surgery? even if you have it done, you are not being true to your partner.
Munda4Booty
16-11-2006, 08:12 PM
dont lose it before marriage ;)
s_bootylicious
17-11-2006, 04:21 PM
i agree with Munda4Booty:) ............you should not lose your viginity before marriage;) ......................................
Munda4Booty
18-11-2006, 09:34 PM
^ ooo look everyone,shes winking at me? :p
Ek Ajnabi
18-11-2006, 10:50 PM
this is gonna sound really digusting to some of u guys, but i will write it anyways. read at ur own risk!!!
in some countries, expecially small parts of africa and small parts of middle eastern countries, they have this process called FGM (Female Gential Mutlation). what they do in that process is they take the vagina area of a girl (usually done between age 4-8) and remove the genitalia part. they they take the skin and sew the whole thing together. the reason they do that is just to make sure the girl stays a virgin, and some even believe it makes the girl look more beautiful. then during the honeymoon night, the husband has to rip open the stitiches just so they can have an intercourse. also, they believe its alot more fun for the husband.
man, that gotta hurt really bad.
what the ....
Munda4Booty
19-11-2006, 03:02 PM
eww.. aint that nasty, circumsition thin, still happens..
s_bootylicious
19-11-2006, 07:11 PM
^ ooo look everyone,shes winking at me? :p
stop teasing me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:p
Sameer_20
19-11-2006, 07:41 PM
Hi All,
I'm sure most you agree that if you lose your virginity you lose that childlke part of you and you become the ADULT. I think I have a Peter Pan complex....I know loads of people who have lost their virginity to people they never thought were worth it and regret it. And they've hated them, called them things and just tried to forget them. But apparently you always remember your first, and I don't want to compromise that part of myself to any unspecial person. I would only ever do it with someone if I could see a real future with. Who agrees??
Munda4Booty
20-11-2006, 10:30 PM
^yup! only my wife gets my virginity ! ;)
s_bootylicious
21-11-2006, 12:06 PM
so who is going to be your wife? how are you poiting too?;) .................lol...................
Munda4Booty
21-11-2006, 08:33 PM
not u:p
naaaaaaaaaaaaaaa my wife is gonna be.......
.................. Inshallah x
MisS IsLander01
23-11-2006, 05:01 AM
well personally i plan to wait till marriage.. and my guy agrees which is kool
:]
magicman555
25-11-2006, 04:04 PM
virginity is no issue in today's world
ishan2003
14-12-2006, 05:37 AM
Exactly in today's world it shouldn't be an issue at all...its the 21st century for heaven's sake...and if people still think its best to preserve it for after marriage...oh well...its their opinion, but if I marry someone and she tells me that she preserved her virginity for after marriage, I most probably would commit suicide.lol ;)
bollywood_princess
21-02-2007, 07:58 PM
i dont know this topic is confusing...there are
2 sides to every coin
and thats why i say...think about what u are
doin before u do it.
according to most religions, u should stay a virgin
till marriage, but it has to be remembered this applies
to MEN AND WOMEN not just women...
so a guy cant expect his wife to be a virgin if he isnt himself....
after the age of 18 it is ur choice whether u lose
ur virginity or not...
but just dont be silly, use protection and make sure
its the person
u want to lose ur virginity with and for goodness sake
never do it just
so u can brag to ur friends!