Marriage??

marriage the ultimate start of 2nd life, is it really important to get married , is it wrong to get married late? is it right to get married when ur not ready? do love marriage last? is the modern thoughts reason for the rate of divorce nowdays? is it okay to go for arranged marriage when ur not ready? if ur asked for arranged marriage when ur not ready what will u do? do u wish to control ur life after marriage and go for ur goals? what are your thoughts on marriage

may i add something...
why do people have to get married? cant ppl just leave them alone?
ugh!
i dont understand why ppl find that they wont ever find happiness, without marriage.

surely you can

yu know there are awards
" Defender of Marriage Awards "

surely you can

society wont let you. do you know how many aunties there are?!? sheesh!

eh i was speaking abt " may i add something "

well in india single aunties rate is very low

oh speaking abt society i wanna start another topic about
should we act like what society wants or have our own way and not care about it.

good idea.


yeah okay. i lost my train of thot. and im not gna start again. i should think more towards my hmwk! ;)

seeems like raj wants to get married..
eevrywhere i go its rajz marriage topic..
Marriage..love or arranged marriage...marriage???...loool :p

seeems like raj wants to get married..
eevrywhere i go its rajz marriage topic..
Marriage..love or arranged marriage...marriage???...loool :p


really>
aw khush..dun forget to invite me to tum dono ki shaadi! ;)

bhoot dun strain ur lil brain... free time mein likh np

may i add something...
why do people have to get married? cant ppl just leave them alone?
ugh!
i dont understand why ppl find that they wont ever find happiness, without marriage.
Cause yer a muslim bhoot! loool nah just joking
i think its possible to not to get married but then again the love and attention a guy can give you..you wont get it from anybody else! and it wont also be the same as being loved by yer parents and stuff.
But being single also rocks ass baby!! :D:D

really>
aw khush..dun forget to invite me to tum dono ki shaadi! ;)
aww shuddddd up.....

may i add something...
why do people have to get married? cant ppl just leave them alone?
ugh!
i dont understand why ppl find that they wont ever find happiness, without marriage.

i agree to dat!! i'm sure dat i would be happeir if i don't get married, cause then u get to do wat ever u want, and not hve to listen to ur husband, or have any responsibilites. life would be a lot easier wid out marriage

i agree to dat!! i'm sure dat i would be happeir if i don't get married, cause then u get to do wat ever u want, and not hve to listen to ur husband, or have any responsibilites. life would be a lot easier wid out marriage
eh! to live u need responsibilities...
to learn the meaning of life..u need ups and downs..
and plus im sure u wouldnt want to be alone
on the rainy night..watching movies all ur self..
and eating whole popcorn to ur self....

ok ok ^^where did this lead to...

Plus ever1 wants some1 who they can share their happiness..
their sorrow and when they are crying a someone who can lend
his shoulder for them to cry on..who can hold their hand... pick em up
when they are down...hold them tight wen they are afraid...be there for them when they are feeeling lonely...and most of all love em like no
1 in the world will and always there for them and some1 they can always
count on.. tats whole point of hubby.. i mean marriage isnt all abt
the responsibilities and stuff...yeah there are bad sides to it which u
dont want but wen u see in that view those bad things are all covered
by those good things in marriage...sooo yh quit complaining u would be
happy living as KUWARIZ *singles*..coz trust me u wont...there will
be a time wen u will feeel the need for tat some1...:regualar_s

Cause yer a muslim bhoot! loool nah just joking
i think its possible to not to get married but then again the love and attention a guy can give you..you wont get it from anybody else! and it wont also be the same as being loved by yer parents and stuff.
But being single also rocks ass baby!!

what if you mary the rong guy? wut if he dun even care bout you? cuz ive seen that happen..im sure those ppl would much rather be single. :)

does it say in Islam that you have to get married?
( :p im not jus messin around..i actually dunno)


yeah armeen..or amreen :D lol. (again!..im sorri)
you would have responsibilities..just not as MANY...
and you wouldnt havta be like "oh whats he gonna think if i do THIS" fer every step you take..

ofcourse yer not gonna get married if you think he doesnt love you or vaatever.Its not like you meet 'hi' 'hi' and the next day you guys get married,i mean yesh he can fake loving you,but at some point you can see that too u just gotta be fast lol.

Yesh it does say in the Quran that women should get married lekin cant remeber why.

As for amreen..the freedom of having when yer single will taste bitter when you get old and you have no1 beside you.Isnt it better to spend yer life with some1 who really cares for you and still is there on yer last day(maybe he'll go 1st lol)instead of being single and alwayz being alone and regret it when you get old..?i think so:D:D

Oooo...great arguments...will post mine some other time.

Khushi what you said is very true (plus is sounded sooooo sweet... :p ...LOL!) you can't stay single your whole life!

khushi didnt write that herself..she prolly read it sumwhere and posted here:9:

ofcourse yer not gonna get married if you think he doesnt love you or vaatever.Its not like you meet 'hi' 'hi' and the next day you guys get married,i mean yesh he can fake loving you,but at some point you can see that too u just gotta be fast lol.

Yesh it does say in the Quran that women should get married lekin cant remeber why.



yuh it sounds silly wen u say it like that..but ive seen it happen. the person dun be himself till AFTER the wedding :p


daym...so women HAVTA get married? phuk!

eh! to live u need responsibilities...
to learn the meaning of life..u need ups and downs..
and plus im sure u wouldnt want to be alone
on the rainy night..watching movies all ur self..
and eating whole popcorn to ur self....

ok ok ^^where did this lead to...

Plus ever1 wants some1 who they can share their happiness..
their sorrow and when they are crying a someone who can lend
his shoulder for them to cry on..who can hold their hand... pick em up
when they are down...hold them tight wen they are afraid...be there for them when they are feeeling lonely...and most of all love em like no
1 in the world will and always there for them and some1 they can always
count on.. tats whole point of hubby.. i mean marriage isnt all abt
the responsibilities and stuff...yeah there are bad sides to it which u
dont want but wen u see in that view those bad things are all covered
by those good things in marriage...sooo yh quit complaining u would be
happy living as KUWARIZ *singles*..coz trust me u wont...there will
be a time wen u will feeel the need for tat some1...:regualar_s

personally i think that thats not worth all the suffering. i'd rather be single :p yh yh, u mite need a shoulder to cry on once in a while..
but then when you have disputes with him, then wut r u gonna do?

okay i have a biggg thing about dis marriage but cant be bothered typing u see

eh! to live u need responsibilities...
to learn the meaning of life..u need ups and downs..
and plus im sure u wouldnt want to be alone
on the rainy night..watching movies all ur self..
and eating whole popcorn to ur self....

ok ok ^^where did this lead to...

Plus ever1 wants some1 who they can share their happiness..
their sorrow and when they are crying a someone who can lend
his shoulder for them to cry on..who can hold their hand... pick em up
when they are down...hold them tight wen they are afraid...be there for them when they are feeeling lonely...and most of all love em like no
1 in the world will and always there for them and some1 they can always
count on.. tats whole point of hubby.. i mean marriage isnt all abt
the responsibilities and stuff...yeah there are bad sides to it which u
dont want but wen u see in that view those bad things are all covered
by those good things in marriage...sooo yh quit complaining u would be
happy living as KUWARIZ *singles*..coz trust me u wont...there will
be a time wen u will feeel the need for tat some1...:regualar_s

^ok i agree wid u on da part where u need someone by ur side to be happy. but why does dat person hve to be ur husband?? why can't it be ur best friend?? if i'm single n my best friend is single, den we can't watch those movies together and eat popcorn together :D lol and when there is a time of crying husbands aren't wat ladies turn to. its mostly their sisters and stuff. so i still don't see any point

^ok i agree wid u on da part where u need someone by ur side to be happy. but why does dat person hve to be ur husband?? why can't it be ur best friend?? if i'm single n my best friend is single, den we can't watch those movies together and eat popcorn together :D lol and when there is a time of crying husbands aren't wat ladies turn to. its mostly their sisters and stuff. so i still don't see any point

it's called being LEZ :D



lol..jk'in :p
yuh thaz wut i was thinkin too eh!

Dont only think of the disadvantages of a marriage..it has alot more advantages..True friends do not excist it does not matter how many times you can go to the movies with them or do whatever at the end you'll be alone again.If you get married you'll have some1 to come home to or you'll be the one he's coming home to,one day yer friends will move on and you'll be left alone.Marriage is like the best thing in the world lol:p it has its disadvantages but tell me what have you recieved in life without having to fought for it..?

personally i think that thats not worth all the suffering. i'd rather be single :p yh yh, u mite need a shoulder to cry on once in a while..
but then when you have disputes with him, then wut r u gonna do?
work it out duhhh:9: or take his money and leave lol:D:D

Dont only think of the disadvantages of a marriage..it has alot more advantages..True friends do not excist it does not matter how many times you can go to the movies with them or do whatever at the end you'll be alone again.If you get married you'll have some1 to come home to or you'll be the one he's coming home to,one day yer friends will move on and you'll be left alone.Marriage is like the best thing in the world lol:p it has its disadvantages but tell me what have you recieved in life without having to fought for it..?


well said yaar :p

but heck--yer just makin it sound all nicey wicey..

marriage isnt all that great..
you're only thinkin of the good stuff :p

i bet bhoot is thinkin of labour pains loooooooooooooooool

it's called being LEZ :D



lol..jk'in :p
yuh thaz wut i was thinkin too eh!

^lolz

i had a feeling it sounding like i was gay or somethin :D

Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one. It makes him/her a grown up and gives him/her responsibilities whether those responsibilities are to feed and clothe the wife or to assist the husband. Marriage is supposed to take a person out of the hectic lifestyle that one is in and place him or her in an organised environment giving them a path to follow in life and a shoulder to lean on. In short marriage arranges one’s life. But looking at marriage in general, from the utilitarian perspective, there is no question that marriage is good for society: Children, women, and men all benefit enormously.

i bet bhoot is thinkin of labour pains loooooooooooooooool

LOL! phukk..! no i wasnt..but hey--that can be a drawback too! ;)
but thats not marriage..thats something that comes after marriage :D IF u want it to..lol

I can make everything sound nice..except you:9:
But its true marriage is a part of life and i think its a gr8 thing so
Hip hip Huraay for me:D:D

I can make everything sound nice..except you:9:
But its true marriage is a part of life and i think its a gr8 thing so
Hip hip Huraay for me:D:D


LOL..good one...i'm not being mean today..it's Eid..lol

well then...hip hip hurray fer you, as you said :p
it's good that you feel that way..
i guess i still have to develop that thot..and stick it into my head..and then get married sumday..maybe sum odd 10 yrs down the road..lol

Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one. It makes him/her a grown up and gives him/her responsibilities whether those responsibilities are to feed and clothe the wife or to assist the husband. Marriage is supposed to take a person out of the hectic lifestyle that one is in and place him or her in an organised environment giving them a path to follow in life and a shoulder to lean on. In short marriage arranges one’s life. But looking at marriage in general, from the utilitarian perspective, there is no question that marriage is good for society: Children, women, and men all benefit enormously.

^dats not a fact, just ur opinion

you know^..."pretty" is spelled "preety" in your siggie..

^lol yeah i just noticed it, well den dats da cool way to spell it, like cool is spelled kool :D

LOL k w/e floats yer boat :p

admit it..its a boo-boo! LOL a boo boo? how old am i? heck..!



okay lets stop spammin :D

^lolz how old are u?? :D

yeah i guess its wat u call a "boo boo" lolz but i didn't make it so it don't matter, and preity looks soo pretty so its all "kool" lolz

gajjar's gna kill both of us if we continue chattin here...
continue this convo in my hullaballoOoOo thread if u'd like :p

that is a fact amreen....

no its not raj...

if it is, site it.

where's your source?

its from a site thats why..

yuh so give us de link.. :p


raj it's an opinionnnn...

The Necessity of Marriage
by The Honorable Rick Santorum
Heritage Lecture #804

October 20, 2003 | | |



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Thank you for inviting me to speak to you today regarding an important institution that is increasingly threatened in our society--marriage. Several years ago, I addressed "The Necessity of Truth," and today I will discuss "The Necessity of Marriage."

Marriage is one of those truths that, as I articulated, is important for the foundation of any healthy society. There are two ways to approach it. One is from a utilitarian standpoint: Why is marriage a good thing for our society? Later on in my talk, I'm going to list statistics that prove its myriad benefits. However, first, I will approach the topic of marriage from a broader perspective: Why is it an intrinsic good?

When I talk to my colleagues about marriage and about the objective evidence that proves marriage is a good thing, it's remarkable how little they know. When I assert that marriage is a good thing and is under assault, they all have a basic understanding that marriage is worth protecting.

However, it is so accepted and so natural that my colleagues fail to step back and consider why marriage is such a good thing. Why is it so important? Why is marriage so foundational? What is the necessity of marriage?

Marriage as a Countercultural Institution
To answer these questions, let me first address the culture in which we live and why marriage is an institution that is countercultural. In its essence, marriage is a selfless act. It is the act of giving oneself to somebody else and becoming one.

Of course, it is impossible for two people to unite and remain separate. And since the essence of marriage is selflessness in a self-centered society, it faces opposition from today's popular culture.

All facets of our popular culture, from the entertainment industry to our universities, focus on "ME." My colleague Senator John Ensign of Nevada told me a story that epitomizes the selfishness of our culture: "When I was a teenager, I had a sticker in my car with a picture of a bear scratching himself on the tree, and under it was the saying, `If it feels good, do it!'"

That was the motto of the '60s and the '70s, and certainly it is the motto today. The image of the bear scratching himself highlights a view of human beings as animals, and that people should do what pleases them at the moment without a thought to the broader long-term consequences of their actions.


Marriage and the Common Good
Marriage promotes the common good by building families and raising children. Those of you who have children know that every day that goes by is about selfless acts in nurturing children. But society is failing to affirm the vital institution of marriage on any level--legal, societal, any level--and for this reason, marriage is under assault, with high rates of divorce and out-of-wedlock births pummeling the traditional family.

Given the high stakes for society, it is important for public leaders to understand why marriage is important and to communicate that to the American public. But many politicians still do not understand what makes marriage worth defending.

For example, Senator Max Baucus of Montana asserted during a recent Senate Finance Committee markup that the federal government should withhold funding from programs to promote healthy marriages in the welfare reform reauthorization bill because it is not the government's place to encourage people to get married--marriage is not for everyone.

How Marriage Benefits Society
But looking at marriage in general, from the utilitarian perspective, there is no question that marriage is good for society: Children, women, and men all benefit enormously.

Benefits for Children
Looking at the benefits for children, there is a wealth of evidence that children living in two-parent homes are better off than those in single-parent families. They are 44 percent less likely to be physically abused, 47 percent less likely to suffer physical neglect, 43 percent less likely to suffer emotional neglect, and 55 percent less likely to suffer some form of child abuse.

Those living with their two married parents through age 16 have higher grades, higher college aspirations, and better attendance records than children in one-parent families or who experience family disruption. They also are half as likely to drop out of high school.

Furthermore, children in two-parent homes are less than half as likely as children in single-parent families to have emotional or behavioral problems. And children who live with biological or adoptive parents are about a third as likely as those living with single parents to use illegal drugs, tobacco, or alcohol. In addition, boys raised with two parents are about half as likely to commit a crime leading to incarceration by their early 30s.

Clearly, the research shows that marriage helps children do better on every level, and that is exactly why the government should encourage healthy marriages.

Benefits for Women
For women, despite a whole generation of a movement that has misled them into thinking that marriage is not necessarily in their interest, the evidence proves otherwise.

Studies show that wives are 30 percent more likely to rate their health excellent or good than single women of the same age. In addition, married women (and men) are less likely to suffer long-term chronic illness or disabilities than single women. And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women.

Women gain financially as well--marriage increases income by 50 percent for women (25 percent for men)--and domestic violence rates decrease substantially. Married women are far less likely to be victims of intimate-partner violence than divorced, separated, or never-married women. The rate per thousand for divorced or separated women is 31.9; never married women, 11.3; married women, just 2.6.

Benefits for Men
Finally, the evidence shows that marriage benefits men significantly and serves as a civilizing influence on them.

Notably, single men have almost six times the probability of being incarcerated as married men, and men who live with their biological children are more involved in the community and service organizations, more connected to their own siblings, adult children, and aging parents. Fathers living with their children invest more hours per week in work and careers than non-fathers.

Men's financial gains are substantial. Married men make 25 percent more money than single men, and two-parent families are five times less likely to be in poverty than single-parent families.

Their health and quality of life also improve with marriage. Mortality rates are two-thirds as high among married men as among single men. Married men (and women) are less than half as likely as their divorced counterparts to attempt suicide.

Conclusion
The evidence is overwhelming: We need to promote and protect marriage to secure a healthier society. Therefore, the public policy implications are clear: The government must promote marriage as a fundamental societal benefit.

Marriage must remain the standard for family life in the society.

Both for its intrinsic good and for its benefits for society, we need marriage. And just as important, we need public leaders to communicate to the American public why it is necessary.

The Honorable Rick Santorum is a United States Senator from Pennsylvania.

half of it was from a islam book.. i forgot the url

there we go..
k, it's written in first person..
hence it's an opinion..

its based according to a survey as well

half of it was from a islam book.. i forgot the url

history mein hoga :p



w/e yaar..it dun matter :p
but yuh...it;s not a fact yaar..it's contreversial..(ppl can have diff opinions bout it..)

haan opinion hoge..
so to someone shuld state those points wrong ..and explain nah...

yeh it was said in islam its incomplete without marriage....and had a defination as well..

The basic unit of society is the family and the cornerstone of the family is marriage, the union of one man and one woman. Deeply rooted in all societies, marriage is a fundamental social institu*tion that has been tested and reaffirmed over thousands of years. The family yields significant “social capital” and other benefits to society, and children in an intact home have the most promis*ing life prospects. And parents have the right and responsibility to oversee the education and upbringing of their child.

^^ this is good as well

well thats according to a releigon. ppl have to state their opinions bout it now...

and i already did :p

and im doing my bio! :D

u didnt explain..why

cuz there r too many disadvantages..


i did explain...:p to leila..

to her umm..
anyways its ur wish nah.. if u dun wanna

oye u having exams nah?? best of luck... padai kar ja

lol k
n thx :p

i found this interesting in a country like US

Defend and strengthen marriage and the family in federal and state law and policies. All household forms other than the intact traditional family increases children’s risk of poorer developmental and achievement and increases the likelihood of their need for costly social services. Thus policy and cultural efforts should aim to reduce divorce and to ease economic or other burdens on families. It should also give encouragement to marriage as a social and economic institution. Government benefits should not be distributed in ways that will create a disincentive to marry or that would effectively establish parallel institutions to marriage.
Reserve major decisions on marriage to legislatures, not judges. Changes in the bedrock institution of marriage require broad political consideration, not narrow judicial decisions. They should be made through the lawmaking process in a way that reflects settled public opinion, informed by long-established traditions and the principles of social order. Judicial rulings concerning marriage and family should not make sweeping policy decisions with vast societal implications. Judicial decisions that threaten marriage cannot stand unchallenged. Steps must be taken to remedy the assault on marriage by the courts, if necessary through constitutional amendments.
Promote marriage through welfare reform. Family breakdown is closely associated with child poverty. Efforts to strengthen the family and discourage unwed child-bearing have already yielded impressive results since the 1996 reforms.
Defer to parental rights regarding the education and welfare of minor children. Federal and state government policy should not overturn the rights of parents. Policies should provide for ultimate parental decision-making, particularly when it regards the health and welfare of chil*dren.
Talking Points

Marriage is a fundamental social institution. Deeply rooted in all societies, marriage has been tested and reaffirmed over thousands of years. As an institution, marriage is the foundation of a harmonious and enriching family life and the basic building block of our society. It is not a casual relationship, but one that carries many obligations and benefits affecting husbands and wives, fathers and mothers, sons and daughters, and thus every individual in society.
Marriage is the union of one man and one woman and must continue to be legally recognized as such. Marriage is not and has never been merely a private contract or personal consensual relationship, but a matter of common interest and public concern. It is a fundamental and uni*versal institution whereby a man and a woman are joined together for the primary purpose of forming and maintaining a family. Individual marriages are recognized by the state, but the institution of marriage itself was not created—and thus cannot be redefined—by government.
Children fare best and have the most promising life prospects when they are raised in intact families. Data from alternate household forms over the past several decades have reaffirmed that the intact family remains the best environment for children. The law has an interest in set*ting marriage apart from all other household forms. These others have not been able to guaran*tee the same level of security for the welfare of the next generation.
A strong and broad consensus has emerged in the past decade that marriage must be strength*ened. Policy and cultural efforts to reduce divorce and safeguard intact families have made progress. Our energy as a society should be directed toward strengthening this most basic social institution. Efforts to elevate the status of other household forms in the law detract from this movement to strengthen the unique institution of marriage.
The institution of marriage has been shown to be overwhelmingly beneficial to children, adults, and society. For more than 50 years, government policy has discouraged marriage through the marriage penalties in the welfare system. Fortunately, there is now broad agree*ment that this pattern should be changed and that government should promote healthy mar*riage. It is now well understood that the family is the primary organization by which children are educated and formed into adults. As the cornerstone of the family, marriage produces chil*dren; provides children with mothers and fathers; and produces many social, economic, and health benefits for children, adults, and society generally. Promoting marriage has the potential to significantly decrease poverty and dependence, increase child well-being and adult happi*ness, and to provide the safest environment for women and children.
Facts & Figures

Today, nearly one-third of all American children are born outside marriage. That translates to one out-of-wedlock birth every 35 seconds. Of those born within marriage, a great many will experience their parents’ divorce before they reach age 18. More than half of the nation's chil*dren will spend all or part of their childhood in never-formed or broken families. 1
In 1960, just 5.3 percent of children were born outside marriage, compared with 33.2 percent in 2000.2 (See charts at http://www.heritage.org/Research/Features/Marriage/decline.cfm.)
Federal and state governments spend more than $150 billion each year subsidizing single-par*ent families.3
According to the Fragile Families Survey, the overwhelming majority of children born out of wedlock have parents who are living together or who are romantically involved or seeing each other on a regular basis; they are not born to single mothers with absentee fathers. Moreover, a majority of unwed mothers say they are interested in marrying the father and believe they have a 50 percent chance of doing so, and an even greater percentage of these fathers believe their chances to be the same.4
The collapse of marriage is the principal cause of child poverty in the United States. A child raised by a never-married mother is seven times more likely to live in poverty than a child raised by his biological parents in an intact marriage. Overall, some 80 percent of long-term child poverty in the United States is found among children from broken or never-formed fami*lies.5 (See charts at http://www.heritage.org/Research/Features/Marriage/economic.cfm.)
Married people are more than twice as likely to be happy as divorced or never-married individ*uals.6
Research indicates that marriage actually protects women from depression, rather than contrib*uting to it as some have suggested. Even when one controls for the hypothesis that those inclined to be happy are those who marry, it is shown that marriage leads to an increase in well-being for both young men and women and that this difference only increases with age. After controlling for race, education, family structure, income, and living arrangements, mar*ried people—with or without children, male or female—are less depressed and emotionally healthier than singles.7 (See charts at http://www.heritage.org/research/features/marriage/adults.cfm.)
Married families have higher incomes. The economic benefits of marriage are not limited to the middle class; some 70 percent of never-married mothers would be able to escape poverty if they were married to the father of their children.8
Children in intact families are less likely to be depressed, to have difficulty in school, to have behavior problems, or to use marijuana.9
Married mothers are half as likely to be victims of domestic violence. Married women with children are far less likely to suffer from violent crime in general or at the hands of intimate acquaintances or strangers. Mothers who have never married—including those who are single and living either alone or with a boyfriend and those who are cohabiting with their child's father—are more than twice as likely to be victims of violent crime than are mothers who have ever married. 10
Serious child abuse is less likely in married families. Children of divorced or never-married mothers are six to 30 times more likely to suffer from serious child abuse than are children raised by both biological parents in marriage.11 (See charts at http://www.heritage.org/research/features/marriage/children.cfm.)

that is a fact amreen....

its not a fact, cause facts are 100% true, and dats not 100% true, cause if it was, there wouldn't be divorces in dis world

marriage is beautiful institution.... divorces are due to human errors....success of marriage stays in a persons hand....
its like love..... love is beautiful... but ppl when fail say it sux..and all

^but luv does fail, when its not even da person's fault, so luv does suck sometimes same wid marrigae

it is someones fault if a relationship breaks up....we humans think so high about ourself...tht we dont accept certain stuff...thats the reason of the drift and break ups

^so dat means marrige isn't wat u said it was at da beginning

It Is

^no point of arguing on dis, i don't think u n me will ever agree :D

nah dun think we can..cause ill always stick to mine heheh

u remind me abt bhoot...she used to be so negative abt marriage..and we used to keep talking abt it...

^she used to be?? or is she still?

yeah i'm always gonna stick to wat i say to

the way i've been brought up is the old fashioned way, i will get married when where and to who my parents tell me to. if i don't they will disown me. i would rather listen to my parents and keep their self-respect and trust rather then loosing it. i love them to much to disappoint them.

man i totally forget my whole biggg massive paragraoh about this marriage stuff

all i can say is that one day we will all get married and u know that day will be the happest day of our life
everyone should get married one day and live with their partner
my dad says there is 3 steps in life that is :
Birth
Marriage
Death

all this is written in out destiny the day we were born

me and ma dad had this really amazing convosation about Marriage and i was up till 2:30am in da morning listening to him and omg it was sooo interesting

Bhoot and Amreen thoughts and opnion about Marriage will change if they ever talk to my Dad about it i was like no i aint going to get married but after that convo i was like wow it sounds sooo beautiful

okies am chattin rubbish now init?
sumone shud tell me to stop lol

Awwwwwww....naah that's not rubbish.... :)

Oh and lilprincess_985 I totally get where you're coming from.

Sometimes it is the way you're brought up...you already know how your life is gonna be planned out for you....so you just learn to go with it. :)

as long as a person is comfortable with whats happening its all good

^^where did dat come from lol?

I dont think marriage can be called a second life...it is the same life where our responsibilities and tensions are increased more..should be comitte and serious.thats all... And i dont think it is necessary awomen needs a mans shelter... She can also live alone,self dependent..she can do job,she can hang out, she can have fun,she can cook food , She can wash cloths and she can do almost all the things...i think man need women ..and it is important for him to get married..because he needs some one to make food for him,wash his cloths etc etc etc..

^^^go girlllllll
loooooool it right out da a man needs a woman loool

hmm marriage.....sounds good

GO ashna go...yh i blve to...its just another responsibilty tht comes as lyfe passes by...

hey marriage sounds good...

If i tell u marriage is a registered contarct between men and women for makiing sex and giving birth with out any tension of any people arounu u..what will u say...?

The only thing i see in marriage is that ... we can love some one with heart ,have sex give birth, share all kind of feelings ,live together..what is the prob..u know the only prob is society..we are scare of society..what they will say what they will think etc etc...if we get that licence(Marriage) every thing is ok..The things we are doing after and before marriage is teh same... i actaully have lot to say abt this but i m stopping bcoz i dont want to kill u guys...ha ha h

hay sid....that sounds right...in short what u actually mean marriage is not that necessary... :cool:

Nah at certain point u can't do all the work alone and its really difficult to stay alone at that point..Lyfe gets really serious and bored..buh i really dunno at which point but at some point..

apni apni soch hai...

marriage is a important time in every one life

we will get married one day

i dont know how one person can live alone in their whole life without a life partner

Ye!!!I have seen the first time Rubz to stand for me...:D

xcuse me??
am saying what i think not standing up for u loool
freeakkkkkkkkkk!!!

Aww coz i even said the same thing..but it's not a bad thing to stand up for somone..:D

lol

:D

shadi ek anokha bandan

agreed^

sigh ..getting some old crap back